Do I need boundaries? What are they for? I facilitate a group based on the workbook, BOUNDARY POWER by O’Neil & Newbold. In it members learn what boundaries are, what are functional and dysfunctional boundaries, and how to set and maintain their boundaries.
BOUNDARIES are limits that allow for a safe connection based on your needs. When these limits are changed, the relationship may become unclear. Such uncertainty is often experienced as a violation of your personal space. The pain from the violation may be delayed, or may not occur at all, and the violation may not be recognized or felt until harmful consequences emerge.
EXAMPLES OF UNHEALTHY BOUNDARIES
1. Taking care of someone else, and not taking care of yourself.
2. Going against personal values or rights to please another (more…)
Square Breathing Technique for Stress Management
Here is a technique that you can use to relieve stress from anger and anxiety. I know, it sounds so simplistic. But, does it have to be hard to work? Listen all the way to the end to find out how it works.
If you’d like more help managing your anxiety and expressing your anger appropriately, I’d love to work with you. Please give me a call at 404.518.0828. . . Dr. Sharman Colsetti
When a client came in today complaining about her job, I told her this story about a breakfast meeting I had with a friend.:
I met my friend for breakfast. She wanted to know if I could help her. In some ways, it was a typical breakfast meeting. The waitress was pleasant; the eggs were average; the restaurant was full of busy people. We shared a cup of black coffee-like substance, and the first few times my friend took a sip, she managed to spill quite a bit of it. Her trembling hand was just one of the symptoms of burnout.
Is Group Therapy right for me?
Group is a safe place to allow yourself to be vulnerable and experiment with new behaviors. You can learn to work through conflicts that might otherwise be avoided. You can learn that we all struggle with personal issues at various transition periods in our life — starting or ending a relationship or job, losing a loved one, being a parent, etc. (more…)
Why do couples fight?
Harville Hendrix, one of the couples counseling gurus says: “When two people meet and fall in love, they idealize each other. They see each other as the person who will meet their needs. At first it seems true—people do all sorts of things they wouldn’t normally do, because they’re trying to bond with someone, and we each end up with the impression that the other person is perfect; they’re going to do all we want them to do. But (more…)
Navigating an argument
Arguments are inevitable. We are all unique individuals with unique backgrounds. We have unique ways of seeing the world and usually think that our way is correct. Unfortunately, both people involved in an argument believe that their way is the RIGHT way to see it. The truth is that there are MANY ways to see the same thing. So what do we do?
Relationships can be challenging! Remember, challenges help us to grow into the kind of person we admire. So, to help you in those challenging moments, here are some tips to help navigate an argument.
1. When your loved one is making an “unreasonable” demand, to avoid being defensive and responding in anger, think of it as a “poorly-worded request.” They are doing the best that they know how to ask for what they want. (more…)
Often times in therapy, clients have secrets that they may never have told anyone. I was just reading an interesting blog on Psychology Today by Anita E. Kelly, a Psychology Professor at the University of Notre Dame and the author of The Psychology of Secrets. She gives four tips (more…)