Recently, I read Hardwired for Happiness by Rick Hanson, PhD. Since happiness is a key component to mental health, I think his tips can benefit us all.
He says when we feel included, appreciated, and cared about, we have a sense of ease, and feel cheerful and confidant. These feelings are attached to our three core needs for safety, satisfaction and connection. In order to meet those needs and attain peace, contentment, and love, we work to avoid harm, approach rewards, and attach to others.
Unfortunately, our brains are hardwired to go for the negative to help us survive. Focusing on the negative becomes a habit. So what do we do?
Did you know that you can change your thought and change your life. Our thoughts are very powerful!
Here’s one of my favorite stories that will help you easily understand how our thoughts determine our world:
On a recent weekend in Atlantic city, a woman won a bucketful of quarters at a slot machine. She took a break from the slots for dinner with her husband in the hotel dining room. But first she wanted to stash the quarters in her room. I’ll be right back, and we’ll go to eat,” she told her husband, and she carried the coin-laden bucket to the elevator. (more…)
This is one of my favorite ways to avoid the slippery slope of sadness. I write my gratitudes for the day. Instead of focusing on what’s not working, I look for what is. Our mind influences what we see and feel. To feel better, shift your mind. Even for a moment. Begin small. Say “thank you” to others and to yourself. Appreciate your body and the many things that it does for you. According to Melody Beattie, another of my favorite authors, “Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.” Try it. You’ll like it! (more…)
I just got back from a refreshing speed walk around the neighborhood. Everything was clean from the morning rain. I was remembering swimming at the lake as a kid and getting old enough to walk the 2 miles to get there. (more…)
Today stands before us with promise.
The opportunities for growth are guaranteed, as is all the spiritual help we need to handle any situation the day offers.
If today offers us a challenge, we can be greateful.
Our challenges are gifts. (more…)
Here we are on the threshold of a new year. If you are like me, you may be thinking about things that you want to let go of and things that you want to add to your life. I believe that I am free to choose. I let go of the belief that I can’t because of my age, my finances, my social status, and on and on. This video by “David Ault,”, gives me encouragement when I slip into “I can’t.” Perhaps it will do that for you, too. HAPPY NEW YEAR! Dr. Sharman Colosetti
A common question I get is, “Is this normal?” We learn the definition of normal from our family. Kelly Clarkston’s song, Because of You (below), illustrates this perfectly. (more…)
Mary Oliver (1992). New and Selected Poems.
One day you finally knew
what you had to do,
though the voices around you kept shouting
their bad advice –
though the whole house
began to tremble
and you felt the old tug
at your ankles.
“Mend my life!”
each voice cried. (more…)
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? (more…)