Navigating an argument

Navigating an argument Arguments are inevitable. We are all unique individuals with unique backgrounds. We have unique ways of seeing the world and usually think that our way is correct. Unfortunately, both people involved in an argument believe that their way is the RIGHT way to see it. The truth is that there are MANY […]

I am free to choose!

Here we are on the threshold of a new year. If you are like me, you may be thinking about things that you want to let go of and things that you want to add to your life. I believe that I am free to choose. I let go of the belief that I can’t […]

Should I tell a secret?

Often times in therapy, clients have secrets that they may never have told anyone. I was just reading an interesting blog on Psychology Today by Anita E. Kelly, a Psychology Professor at the University of Notre Dame and the author of The Psychology of Secrets. She gives four tips

My parents are getting divorced

Children are aware that their parents’ relationship isn’t working. Dr. J. Louise Despert in Children of Divorce says, “The fact that the parents are unhappy together is the thing that primarily disturbed the children in the family, not the fact that they finally agreed to separate.” The children may, in fact, be relieved.

Precautions against Sexual Assault

Years ago, I coordinated a Rape Crisis program. I worked with victims of rape who ranged in age from several months old up to elderly grandmas. Sometimes, bad things happen to good people. We all want to avoid being victimized. Here’s a list of tips that may help lessen the chance of being victimized. 

When should we go to Premarital Counselling?

Marriages and families are two of the greatest assets that we can have. Premarital Counselling helps damage-proof your relationship. You can learn to identify and resolve differences that may become sources of conflict and develope skills to navigate your marriage. Premarital Counseling is helpful if:

Considering divorce?

57 MOST FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS ABOUT DIVORCE I came across a great resource called 57 most frequently asked questions about divorce by Patricia A. Stallworth, a certified financial planner and certified divorce financial analyst. It’s an easy-to-read brochure that was published by Minding Your Money Institute (

Am I crazy?

To me, the everyday definition of crazy is when you see, hear, feel or smell things that others in the same room don’t feel, see, hear or smell. So, when someone asks me if they are crazy, that’s the open door to figuring out what was normal behavior in their family. For George, normal behavior […]

What is normal?

A common question I get is, “Is this normal?” We learn the definition of normal from our family. Kelly Clarkston’s song, Because of You (below), illustrates this perfectly.